Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Everything is ENERGY

Monday, December 3, 2012

Friday, November 9, 2012



Perhaps a little rough around the edges, this is the ‘no frills, no fluff’ advice I would give to my 20-year-old self if I ever got the chance to travel back in time.
  1. Life is significantly easier when you’re honest with yourself and others.  This doesn’t mean you should be rude and inconsiderate, but it’s better to be upfront when you have to rather than concealing things and letting them fester.
  2. Stand up for yourself.  Some people will do anything for their own personal gain at the expense of others – cut in line, take money/property, bully/belittle, pass guilt, etc.  Do not accept this behavior.  Most of these people know they’re doing the wrong thing and will back down surprisingly quickly when confronted.  In a public setting people tend to keep quiet until one person speaks up, so SPEAK UP.  Read In Sheep’s Clothing.
  3. Drama is never worth putting up with.  If someone over age eighteen can’t be a reasonable, reliable adult on a regular basis, avoid this person.
  4. The biggest disappointments in life are the result of misplaced expectations.  Tempering unrealistic expectations of how something ‘should be’ will greatly reduce unnecessary frustration.
  5. If you can make a reasonable living doing what you love, DO WHAT YOU LOVE.  You may not get rich, but you’ll get to do what you love, and that’s priceless.  Of course, be smart, take the necessary steps, and ease into it.  Don’t quit your day job until doing what you love pays the bills.  In the same regard, don’t incur large debts getting a law degree or an MBA if you really want to be a graphic designer.  Read Quitter.
  6. In most corporate professions, there is no greater differentiating factor in income than a college degree.  I agree that it shouldn’t always be this way, but that is the unfortunate reality.  So if you’re planning to work in a corporate atmosphere – regardless of your profession – get your degree.  It’s never too late to start.  Just attending school looks good on your resume; and many companies offer tuition assistance, so it doesn’t have to be that expensive.
  7. Understand that at twenty years of age you are at your most energetic and most creative, but your labor is valued very little.  All the more reason to #1) stand up for yourself and look for the highest bidder and #2) get that degree.
  8. Buy fewer things.  When you feel the need to splurge, buy knowledge and EXPERIENCES instead.
  9. Little things that you want but don’t necessarily need cost money, and they add up.  This is why so many people in my age bracket don’t seem to have a cent to their name: that $90 a month iPhone plan (or whatever it costs), that cable TV, that 65 inch LCD TV, a new car every three years, etc.  Don’t get carried away.  Maintain a simple budget and do some basic accounting each month.  Read I Will Teach You To Be Rich.
  10. Set up a safety fund.  Yes, I know the savings account interest rates are insanely low right now, but having at least six months of expenses in readily accessible cash can save you a lot of hassle on a rainy day.
  11. Loan money to friends and family judiciously.  Nuff said.
  12. Your credit score will come in handy some day.  Don’t be careless with it.
  13. Everything in moderation.  Don’t be a slave to any substance, especially food.
  14. Avoid fatty, sugary foods.  Eat your vegetables.  Stick to a healthy balanced diet.
  15. Start exercising yesterday.
  16. Staying in shape is simpler than most people make it.  Body fat is dictated by what you eat and your activity.  Working out affects two things mainly: fat and muscle.  Aerobic exercise burns fat and builds a little muscle.  Weight training builds muscle and burns a little fat.  In most cases, if you’re overweight you’re eating too much and/or not exercising enough.  Period.
  17. Don’t merely exist… LIVE.  Experience as much as you can.  Do not fall into an endless routine.  Do not become overly comfortable with TV and YouTube as your primary sources of entertainment.  Go places.  Do things.  Try new things.  Follow your curiosities and passions.  Take chances.  Carpe diem.  No one ever achieved anything great through laziness.  Don’t let fear and complacency stop you from a truly rewarding life.  Read The 4-Hour Workweek.
  18. Always do what you feel in your heart is right.
  19. Love is a choice; it’s not magic.  There is no such thing as ‘the one.  You are not destined for any relationship other than the one you help create.  Spend enough time with another loving person, and biology eventually kicks in.  So use your head and find someone you really enjoy spending time with, who you don’t feel pressured to impress – someone who makes you feel loved, relaxed, and comfortable in your own skin.
  20. Read more.  And not just blogs.
  21. Invest time and energy in yourself every day.  When you invest in yourself, you can never lose, and over time you will change the trajectory of your life.  You are simply the product of what you know.  The more time and energy you spend acquiring pertinent knowledge, the more control you have over your life.
  22. Learn some basic, modern survivability skills – how to change a tire, jumpstart a car, safely bust a car window if you’re stuck, render first aid, etc.
  23. Help your fellow neighbor.  The whole “what goes around comes around” concept is the truth.  You may be on top of the world right now – feeling untouchable.  You may have all the tools at your disposal to do and say whatever you want.  But life is a circle that eventually comes back around.  So be polite, be courteous, and at least dream that civilization can be civil.  Either way, it starts with you; because a society is the sum of its parts.
  24. You actually die twice in this world.  Once when you stop breathing, and a second time several years later when somebody says your name for the last time.  So do things that matter; leave a legacy.  Time is running out.
  25. Try to picture us older folks as the twenty-somethings we used to be.  Talk to us.  We’re still pretty cool, we’ve just learned a thing or two over the years – things you will likely find interesting.

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

10 Ways To Raise Your Consciousness

Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.” -Lao Tzu

Becoming more conscious is the progressive realization of conscious mastery over your mind.
10 Ways To Raise Your Consciousness

1. Truth - Truth raises your consciousness. Falsehood lowers it.

First, accept the truth. Whatever you’re afraid to know lowers your consciousness.

Secondly, speak the truth. If honesty is a challenge for you, it’s because you aren’t being honest enough with yourself. Lies you tell others are shadowed by lies you tell yourself.

The more you’re able to accept and speak the truth, the more conscious you become. Raise your consciousness by uncovering and dumping all traces of falsehood from your life. Allow this to be a gradual process. As your consciousness increases, genuine honesty will come more easily to you.

Yes, there may be consequences when you switch from lies and half-truths to the full truth, but highly conscious people know that crossing that bridge is well worth the effect.

A short-term adjustment is nothing compared to the joys of living honestly and openly. It’s so much easier and less stressful to be yourself and allow others to do the same. Not everyone will appreciate the real you, especially if they’ve grown accustomed to a false version, but that won’t matter once you accept and appreciate yourself.

2. Courage - Courage raises your consciousness. Cowardice lowers it.

Courage is the gatekeeper between unconscious growth and conscious growth. As long as you remain on the unconscious side, life will keep throwing problems at you until you step up and take charge. When you face your fear, the fear vanishes, and problems transform into opportunities. But when you run from your problems, your fear only grows.

A powerful guiding principle to adopt is, “Whatever I fear, I must face.” The more fears you face down, the more conscious you become. As you master this lesson, eventually courage becomes less necessary.

Once you develop the courage to face any fear life throws at you, you stop attracting so many fear-based experiences into your life. This is why courage is the dividing line between unconscious growth and conscious growth.

The mastery of courage gives you the power to decide how you’ll grow instead of being a victim of the whims of fate.

3. Compassion - Compassion raises your consciousness. Cruelty lowers it.

A great way to become more conscious is to search for signs of unconscious cruelty and disconnection in your life. This can be very difficult to do since it also requires courage. We naturally resist facing our own cruelty, but it’s there just waiting to be uncovered.

Compassion is the root of unconditional love, a feeling of connectedness with everything that exists. Do you feel connected to yourself? To others? To animals? To all living things? To everything that exists? The more you develop this connection, the more conscious and aware you become.

4. Desire - Desire raises your consciousness. Apathy lowers it.

When you get clear about what you want, such as by setting a goal, you raise your consciousness. Clarity focuses your mind and gives you the power to think and act intelligently. You can feel this effect whenever you think about something you definitely want.

On the other hand, when your desire is unclear, your consciousness is muddled. Your thoughts lack focus and direction, and you merely spin your wheels.

Strive to become more clear about what you truly desire most, and your consciousness will expand.

5. Attention - Attention raises your consciousness. Distraction lowers it.

Improving your ability to concentrate will make you more conscious. Pick up a rock and give it your full and complete attention, and notice what happens. But allow your mind to be riddled with distractions, and your consciousness will sink. A distracted mind is a powerless mind.

Meditation is a great way to practice attention and concentration. Sit quietly, breathe deeply, and focus your mind as you do your best to tune out distracting thoughts. This is simple to learn, but it can take a lifetime to master.

6. Knowledge - Knowledge raises your consciousness. Ignorance lowers it.

First and foremost, know thyself. Think deeply about your life, and keep a journal to record your thoughts. Ask questions to which you don’t know the answer, and then search for those answers.

Look around you as well, and soak up knowledge like a sponge. Interact with your environment with a sense of curiosity and wonder. Study it. Learn from it. Experiment with it.

Strive to understand reality, including your role in it, as accurately as possible. The more accurate your beliefs about reality are, the more conscious you become.

7. Reason - Reason raises your consciousness. Irrationality lowers it.

Logic is a powerful tool of consciousness when used correctly. It lends structure and substance to thought.

However, the great challenge of logic is the avoidance of false assumptions. A single false assumption can throw off a lifetime of otherwise logical conclusions. So challenge all of your beliefs, and never have too much certainty about those that rest on clouds.

8. Conscious people - Conscious people raise your consciousness. Unconscious people lower it.

Seek out others you perceive to be at a higher level of consciousness than you are. Talk to them, ask questions, and enjoy their presence. Allow their ideas and awareness to infect you, and you’ll find yourself expanding in all directions. You’ll become more honest, more courageous, more compassionate, and so on.

But spend time with people at a lower level of consciousness, and you’ll gradually sink to their level. Their thoughts will infect you as well, causing you to become more dishonest, more fearful, more apathetic, etc.

Strive to find a balance between spending time with those who raise your consciousness vs. spending time with those you can help. Learn from those who are a little more conscious, and help those who are a little less conscious than you. In this manner you serve the highest good of all, expanding consciousness everywhere.

9. Energy - Energy raises your consciousness. Disease lowers it.

Take care of your physical body, for it is your primary means of interacting with the world. Energy gives you an ongoing flow of vital life experiences. But without energy you starve your consciousness.

Eat with an awareness of what you’re consuming. Exercise with an awareness of how you’re affecting your body and mind. Before putting anything in your body, consider its effect on your energy, not just in the short term but in the long term as well. Always ask yourself, “Will this produce energy or disease?”

10. Intention - The intention to raise your consciousness raises it. The intention to lower your consciousness lowers it.

Consciousness has the capacity to self-expand or self-contract, just as you have the capacity to grow or to commit suicide. In any given moment, you have the freedom of choice.

By genuinely voicing the intention (or by offering the prayer), “I intend to become more conscious and aware,” you will initiate the expansion of your consciousness. Holding the intention to improve in any of the previous nine areas will yield a similar effect.

Alternatively, you are perfectly free to lower your consciousness at any time. While it’s unlikely you would choose to do so directly, you can achieve the same effect indirectly by lowering your performance in any of the previous nine areas. By choosing to lie, to succumb to fear, to commit acts of cruelty, to remain ignorant, and so on, you put out the intention to lower your consciousness. And in so doing, you initiate a process that will attract more falsehood, fear, cruelty, ignorance, etc. into your life.

Every thought you hold serves to either expand or contract your consciousness. There is no neutral. So choose wisely!

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Be Happier: 10 Things to Stop Doing Right Now

Be Happier: 10 Things to Stop Doing Right Now 

by Jeff Haden (from www.inc.com)

Sometimes the route to happiness depends more on what you don't do.
sad and happy smiley face cupcakes

Happiness--in your business life and your personal life--is often a matter of subtraction, not addition.
Consider, for example, what happens when you stop doing the following 10 things:
1. Blaming.
People make mistakes. Employees don't meet your expectations. Vendors don't deliver on time.
So you blame them for your problems.
But you're also to blame. Maybe you didn't provide enough training. Maybe you didn't build in enough of a buffer. Maybe you asked too much, too soon.
Taking responsibility when things go wrong instead of blaming others isn't masochistic, it's empowering--because then you focus on doing things better or smarter next time.
And when you get better or smarter, you also get happier.
2. Impressing.
No one likes you for your clothes, your car, your possessions, your title, or your accomplishments. Those are all "things." People may like your things--but that doesn't mean they like you.
Sure, superficially they might seem to, but superficial is also insubstantial, and a relationship that is not based on substance is not a real relationship.
Genuine relationships make you happier, and you'll only form genuine relationships when you stop trying to impress and start trying to just be yourself.
3. Clinging.
When you're afraid or insecure, you hold on tightly to what you know, even if what you know isn't particularly good for you.
An absence of fear or insecurity isn't happiness: It's just an absence of fear or insecurity.
Holding on to what you think you need won't make you happier; letting go so you can reach for and try to earn what you want will.
Even if you don't succeed in earning what you want, the act of trying alone will make you feel better about yourself.
4. Interrupting.
Interrupting isn't just rude. When you interrupt someone, what you're really saying is, "I'm not listening to you so I can understand what you're saying; I'm listening to you so I can decide what I want to say."
Want people to like you? Listen to what they say. Focus on what they say. Ask questions to make sure you understand what they say.
They'll love you for it--and you'll love how that makes you feel.
5. Whining.
Your words have power, especially over you. Whining about your problems makes you feel worse, not better.
If something is wrong, don't waste time complaining. Put that effort into making the situation better. Unless you want to whine about it forever, eventually you'll have to do that. So why waste time? Fix it now.
Don't talk about what's wrong. Talk about how you'll make things better, even if that conversation is only with yourself.
And do the same with your friends or colleagues. Don't just be the shoulder they cry on.
Friends don't let friends whine--friends help friends make their lives better.
6. Controlling.
Yeah, you're the boss. Yeah, you're the titan of industry. Yeah, you're the small tail that wags a huge dog.
Still, the only thing you really control is you. If you find yourself trying hard to control other people, you've decided that you, your goals, your dreams, or even just your opinions are more important than theirs.
Plus, control is short term at best, because it often requires force, or fear, or authority, or some form of pressure--none of those let you feel good about yourself.
Find people who want to go where you're going. They'll work harder, have more fun, and create better business and personal relationships.
And all of you will be happier.
7. Criticizing.
Yeah, you're more educated. Yeah, you're more experienced. Yeah, you've been around more blocks and climbed more mountains and slayed more dragons.
That doesn't make you smarter, or better, or more insightful.
That just makes you you: unique, matchless, one of a kind, but in the end, just you.
Just like everyone else--including your employees.
Everyone is different: not better, not worse, just different. Appreciate the differences instead of the shortcomings and you'll see people--and yourself--in a better light.
8. Preaching.
Criticizing has a brother. His name is Preaching. They share the same father: Judging.
The higher you rise and the more you accomplish, the more likely you are to think you know everything--and to tell people everything you think you know.
When you speak with more finality than foundation, people may hear you but they don't listen. Few things are sadder and leave you feeling less happy.
9. Dwelling.
The past is valuable. Learn from your mistakes. Learn from the mistakes of others.
Then let it go.
Easier said than done? It depends on your focus. When something bad happens to you, see that as a chance to learn something you didn't know. When another person makes a mistake, see that as an opportunity to be kind, forgiving, and understanding.
The past is just training; it doesn't define you. Think about what went wrong, but only in terms of how you will make sure that, next time, you and the people around you will know how to make sure it goes right.
10. Fearing.
We're all afraid: of what might or might not happen, of what we can't change, or what we won't be able to do, or how other people might perceive us.
So it's easier to hesitate, to wait for the right moment, to decide we need to think a little longer or do some more research or explore a few more alternatives.
Meanwhile days, weeks, months, and even years pass us by.
And so do our dreams.
Don't let your fears hold you back. Whatever you've been planning, whatever you've imagined, whatever you've dreamed of, get started on it today.
If you want to start a business, take the first step. If you want to change careers, take the first step. If you want to expand or enter a new market or offer new products or services, take the first step.
Put your fears aside and get started. Do something. Do anything.
Otherwise, today is gone. Once tomorrow comes, today is lost forever.
Today is the most precious asset you own--and is the one thing you should truly fear wasting.

Monday, September 24, 2012

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

10 Ways to Raise Your Consciousness

1. Forgive yourself and others.
2. Practice Gratitude and Appreciation.
3. Live each day as though it were your last.
4. Meditate or Pray. I will add YOGA to this one.
5. Suspend Judgment: One judges another to feel less guilty about one’s own misgivings. Judgment energy is dense, dark and heavy. ON the other hand, unconditional acceptance is light, free and accepting.
6. View every experience as a gift.
7. Stay consciously aware of all your thoughts and feelings: It is easy to fall into negative patterns of complaining and feeling like a victim of society and your life. When you catch yourself in the negative zone, don’t feel badly about it and beat yourself up. Simply choose to switch your consciousness to one of gratitude and positive thinking.
8. Treat your physical body as your temple: Your body is the only vehicle you’ve been given for this ride called life. The better you care for your body by eating a healthy, balanced die, and by implementing a regular exercise routine, and by giving your body the rest it requires, the more you will experience increased energy, vitality, joy and freedom.
9. View the world through the eyes of a child.
10. Give love, love, love from your heart.
From The Speaking Tree” Corner in TOI (Times of India).
Blessings and Namaste,

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Monday, May 21, 2012

Friday, May 11, 2012

The Four Agreements

Be Impeccable With Your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Don't Take Anything Personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

Don't Make Assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Always Do Your Best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret. 

101 Timeless Lessons Life Teaches

This is from the site, Everyday Life Lessons.  
101 Timeless Lessons in Just a Few Words
Take everything you’ve ever learned – all the crazy experiences
and lessons – and place it all in a box labeled “Thank you.”
What has life taught you? Think about all the things you would love to tell yourself if you could travel back in time to give your younger self some advice about life.
  1. What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.
  2. In life, you usually get what you ask for, but it rarely comes in the package you think it’s supposed to come in.
  3. Never let one bad day make you feel like you have a bad life.
  4. Just because today is a terrible day doesn’t mean tomorrow won’t be the best day of your life. You just got to get there.
  5. Tell the truth, or eventually someone will tell it for you. Read The Four Agreements.
  6. A mistake is an accident. Cheating and lying are not mistakes. They are intentional choices.
  7. Sometimes the person you want most is the person you’re better off without.
  8. Some people cannot stand that you’re moving on with your life, and so they will try to drag your past to catch up with you. Do not help them by acknowledging their behavior. Keep moving forward.
  9. Surround yourself with positive people who are going to push you toward greatness. Eliminate those who are trying to keep you from it.
  10. Don’t let something that doesn’t matter cause you to lose something that does.
  11. Sometimes people aren’t who they seem to be, and sometimes people are so much more than you originally thought.
  12. Loving someone isn’t just about saying it every day, it’s showing it every day in every way.
  13. Maturity is not when we start speaking about big things, it’s when we start understanding the small things.
  14. Of all the things that can be stolen from you – your possessions, your youth, your health, your words, your rights – what no one can ever take from you is your freedom to choose what you will believe in, and who and what your heart will love.
  15. When you can forgive yourself and others and stop the imprisonment, you’re creating the love of your life.
  16. Not forgiving is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
  17. Age wrinkles the body. Quitting on your dreams wrinkles the soul.
  18. The past can’t hurt you anymore – not unless you let it.
  19. Holding on to the unchangeable past is a waste of energy, and serves no purpose in creating a better future.
  20. Sometimes you’ve got to emotionally let go of the things that once meant a lot to you, so you can move beyond the past and the pain it brings you, and open the next chapter in your life.
  21. The path to our destination is not always a straight one. We go down the wrong one, we get lost, and we turn back. But maybe it doesn’t matter which road we embark on. Maybe what matters is that we embark.
  22. It doesn’t matter if you’ve failed or if you’ve been beaten. All that matters is that you learn something, get back up, and try again. Because winning is a good feeling, but winning when nobody else thought you could is an awesome feeling.
  23. Knowing yourself is one thing, but truly believing and living as yourself is another. With so much social conditioning in our society, we sometimes forget who we are.
  24. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.
  25. You can grow stronger from the pain if you don’t let it destroy you.
  26. Tell the negativity committee that meets inside your head to sit down and shut up.
  27. The worst person to be around is the one who complains about everything and appreciates nothing. Avoid these people at all costs.
  28. Live in such a way that if someone decided to speak badly of you, no one would believe it.
  29. If you love someone, tell them. For hearts are often broken by words left unspoken.
  30. Life is shorter than it often seems. Sometimes we are only given a few minutes to be with the ones we love, and hundreds of hours to spend thinking of them. Cherish the moments you have with your friends and family, because in one single second they can be taken away from you forever.
  31. Things change, but the sun always rises the next day. The bad news: nothing is permanent. The good news: nothing is permanent.
  32. It’s your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.
  33. We often accept the love we think we deserve.
  34. If someone can’t accept you at your worst, they don’t deserve you at your best.
  35. Without communication there is no relationship; without respect there is no love; without trust there’s no reason to continue.
  36. If you leave someone at least tell them why, because knowing you’re not worth an explanation is even more painful than being abandoned.
  37. Speak when you are very angry, and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.
  38. Choose your words carefully – they can’t be taken back once you give them away. Harsh words are like bullets – they can leave deep wounds. And most of the time saying “sorry” is not enough to heal the wounds you leave.
  39. Never make a big decision when you’re angry, and never make a big promise when you’re overjoyed.
  40. It makes no sense to be second in someone’s life when you know you’re good enough to be first in someone else’s.
  41. Take all the time you need to heal emotionally. Moving on doesn’t take a day; it takes lots of little steps to be able to break free of your broken self.
  42. There is a difference between giving up and knowing when you have had enough.
  43. Sometimes a break from your routine is the very thing you need.
  44. When you find yourself cocooned in isolation and despair and cannot find your way out of the darkness, remember that this is similar to the place where caterpillars go to grow their wings.
  45. Don’t count the number of friends you have; count the number of friends you can count on.
  46. Sometimes, the people who are thousands of miles away from you, can make you feel better than people right beside you. That’s a sign of love and true friendship.
  47. There are times when family are like strangers, and strangers are like family.
  48. Life is not about making others happy. Life is about sharing your happiness with others.
  49. When someone tells you, “You’ve changed,” it might simply be because you’ve stopped living your life their way.
  50. If you’re lucky enough to have something that makes you different from everybody else, don’t ever change.
  51. Know you worth! When you give yourself to someone who doesn’t respect you, you surrender pieces of your soul that you’ll never get back.
  52. Imperfections are important, and so are mistakes. You get to be good by learning from your mistakes and you get to be real by being imperfect.
  53. The best way to gain self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do.
  54. The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work unless it’s open.
  55. The difference between who you are and who you want to be, is what you do.
  56. If you really want to know where your destiny lies, look at where you apply your time.
  57. You are where you are right now because of the actions you’ve taken, or maybe the inaction you’ve taken.
  58. Be sure to taste your own words before you spit them out.
  59. Let the constant growth and improvement in your own life keep you so busy that you have no time left to criticize others.
  60. When you try to control everything, you enjoy nothing. Go for long walks. Indulge in great conversations. Question your assumptions. Love yourself. Pay attention to the moment. Be a little crazy. Count your blessings. Let go for a little while and just be.
  61. Just as we cannot see that a seed has taken root until it breaks through the surface, we cannot always see our own growth happening until it does the same.
  62. Don’t ever change just to impress someone. Change because it makes you a better person and leads you to a better future.
  63. Feelings are like waves in the ocean; we can’t stop them from coming, but we can choose which ones to surf.
  64. Being happy doesn’t always make us grateful, but being grateful will always make us happy.
  65. Smile every chance you get; not because life has been easy, perfect, or exactly as you had anticipated, but because you choose to be happy and grateful for all the good things you do have and all the problems you know you don’t have.
  66. It’s nice to have money and the things that money can buy, but it’s also important to make sure you haven’t lost track of the things that money can’t buy.
  67. If you’re finding it hard to be grateful for anything, sit down close your eyes and take a long slow breath and be grateful for oxygen. Every breath you take is in sync with someone’s last.
  68. Life is like a rainbow, you need both the sun and the rain to make its colors appear.
  69. It’s better to be alone with dignity than in a relationship that requires you to sacrifice your self-respect.
  70. Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.
  71. Moving on can mean that you’re making a choice to be happy rather than hurt. It doesn’t mean that you’re giving up. Read Stumbling on Happiness.
  72. Decide to smile and make the best of it; it’s good for your health.
  73. Don’t let loneliness drive you back into the arms of someone you know you don’t belong with.
  74. Love is not about sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off. It’s about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can.
  75. You don’t need a perfect one. You just need someone who you can trust – who shows you that you’re the only one.
  76. There are people in your life whom you knowingly inspire simply by being you.
  77. Everyone says love hurts, but that’s not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love; but in reality love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again. Love is the one thing in this world that does not hurt.
  78. Real friendship is a promise made in the heart. Silent. Unwritten. Unbreakable by distance. Unchangeable by time.
  79. Good relationships are not just about the good times you share; it’s also about the obstacles you go through together, and the fact that you still say “I love you” in the end.
  80. Do small things with huge amounts of love. You’ll see why.
  81. Sometimes people don’t notice the things others do for them until they stop doing them.
  82. Sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much for them.
  83. Look at yourself and remember, people in far worse situations have done far more difficult things than this.
  84. The best thing that you can do in life is follow your intuition. Take risks. Don’t just make the safe and easy choices because you’re afraid of what might happen. If you do, nothing will ever happen.
  85. Most of the time happiness doesn’t come from money or fame or power; it comes from good friends and family, and from the quiet nobility of leading a good life.
  86. Lying is done with both words and silence.
  87. When something bad happens you can either let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.
  88. Don’t waste your time being upset about something you can’t change. Start again right now and do it better this time.
  89. No relationship is ever a waste of time. If it didn’t bring you what you want, it taught you what you do NOT want.
  90. You can’t always be agreeable. That’s how people take advantage of you. Sometimes you have to set boundaries.
  91. The road to success is always under construction.
  92. Not trying is failing.
  93. Don’t be afraid of going slowly; be afraid of standing still forever.
  94. The only time you should look back is to see how far you’ve come.
  95. Stop wasting time regretting what you did a year ago. Start doing what you have to do now, so that in a year’s time you won’t regret what you did today. Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
  96. It’s not how many times you get knocked down, it how many times you get back up.
  97. Follow your heart regardless of what others tell you to do. At the end of the day it’s you that has to live with your decisions, not them.
  98. One of the greatest freedoms is truly not caring what everyone else thinks of you.
  99. The hardest part about growing is letting go of what you were used to, and moving on with something you’re not.
  100. The best things happen when you least expect it. Just sit back and enjoy the ride.
  101. Sometimes you have to stop worrying, wondering, and doubting. Have faith that things will work out, maybe not how you planned, but just how it’s meant to be.

Sunday, March 25, 2012

10% off Italy Yoga and Healthy Cooking Retreat to Florence, Italy!

Want a fabulous weeklong getaway with daily cooking, yoga, and meditation classes, along with excursions throughout beautiful Florence and Tuscany?  Join me and my friend, Jennifer Iserloh, aka www.skinnychef.com for a magical week...

You can bask in the sun, enjoy the private pool and daily yoga and cooking classes, relax, socialize and explore the many beautiful and tasty offerings that this gorgeous part of Italy has to offer.  Tour includes sightseeing trips to Florence, culinary walking tours, and a tour of a winery with wine-tasting and lunch.

Since there's limited space (12 people), please let me know right away if you're interested to participate.

Situated in the heart of Chianti wine-making region, just 10 Km south of Florence and within easy reach of most populartourist attractions in Tuscany, the estate offers convenient and comfortable accommodations for those seeking an unforgettable holiday amidst amazing views of Florence and its surroundings hills.

Feeling tired after all the Florence museums visits? Chill on one of the relaxing and panoramic porches while tasting a glass of Chianti wine, then give in to the inviting private pool and bathe in the sun rays.

For outdoor and adventure loving guests, we can also organize trips to some of the most idyllic hidden natural and historic locations in Tuscany.

Date & Venue

May 26 - June 2, 2012
Villa Poggio
10 km south of Florence

Retreat Features/Highlights
Daily cooking lessons with a focus on healthy foods
Yoga/meditation classes twice a day
Free time to use the swimming pool, take walks or alone time
Culinary walking tour of Florence, browsing/shopping at the San Lorenzo MercatoCentrale
Tuscan wine-tasting excursion with lunch


Villa Poggio's terraces and rooms sit atop a majestic hill giving you one of the most spectacular views on Florence and the Chianti hills.

It contains a large kitchen, dining room, sitting room with satellite TV, relaxing garden with fish pond and a private swimming pool. It is situated in the heart of Chianti winemaking region, just a few kilometers south of Florence.

About Jennifer Iserloh

For those who don't know me, I am a trained chef, author and health expert - having created thousands of delicious recipes, articles, and blogs posts for TV, print and web publications including The Today Show, Living Well With Montel, SELF, Prevention, In Style, People, First For Women, AOL KitchenDaily, and LiveStrong.

It's been my mission to show people that healthy cooking can be fresh, fun and flavorful - including techniques from professional kitchens to empower you to take on a bigger role in your own health while enjoying life more.

Package Details & Pricing

Package price includes daily yoga, meditation and cookingclasses, meals and accommodations for 7 days/nights with arrival & departure on Saturday noon. Wine-tasting with lunch at regional winery. Culinary tasting and shopping at the San Lorenzo market. Use of private pool, art room. Tour guides for select trips. Excluded are airfare and transportation to/from airport. Wine will be available at cost. Transfers between villa and train station can be arranged.

Retreat fee: 985 Euro (1300 US Dollar)

To reserve your spot, we will process a 300 Euro deposit through the Paypal button below. For more info/detailed schedule, please email Anna at anna.fidz@gmail.com

Register Now - Get 10% Off When you register before March 31, 2012, you'll get an extra 10% off. 

Sunday, February 26, 2012

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

It’s easy to make your relationships more complicated than they are. Here are twelve simple reminders to help you keep them on course.

  1. All successful relationships require some work. – They don’t just happen, or maintain themselves. They exist and thrive when the parties involved take the risk of sharing what it is that’s going on in their minds and hearts. Open communication and honesty is the key. (Read The Road Less Traveled.)
  2. Most of the time you get what you put in. – If you want love, give love. If you want friends, be friendly. If you’d like to feel understood, try being more understanding. It’s a simple practice that works.
  3. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot in someone’s life. – Never force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they know your worth, they will create one for you.
  4. There is a purpose for everyone you meet. – Some people will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you; but most importantly some will bring out the best in you. Learn to see and accept the differences between these people, and carry on accordingly.
  5. We all change, and that’s okay. – Our needs change with time. When someone says, “You’ve changed,” it’s not always a bad thing. Sometimes it just means you stopped living your life their way. Don’t apologize for it. Instead, be open and sincere, explain how you feel, and keep doing what you know in your heart is right.
  6. You are in full control of your own happiness. – If your relationship with yourself isn’t working, don’t expect your other relationships to be any different. Nobody else in this world can make you happy. It’s something you have to do on your own. And you have to create your own happiness first before you can share it with someone else. If you feel that it’s your partner’s fault, think again, and look within yourself to find out what piece is missing. Your partner can never ‘complete’ you because you are already whole. The longing for completion that you feel inside comes from being out of touch with who you are. (Read Stumbling on Happiness.)
  7. Forgiving others helps YOU. – Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.
  8. You can’t change people; they can only change themselves. – Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example. If there’s a specific behavior someone you love has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t. If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows what you need them to do.
  9. Heated arguments are a waste of time. – The less time you spend arguing with the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you. And if you happen to find yourself arguing with someone you love, don’t let your anger get the best of you. Give yourself some time to calm down and then gently discuss the situation. (Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.)
  10. You are better off without some people. – When you have to start compromising yourself and your morals for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you. If someone continuously mistreats you or pushes you in the wrong direction, have enough respect for yourself to walk away from them. It may hurt for a little while, but it’ll be ok. You’ll be ok, and far better off in the long run.
  11. Small gestures of kindness go a long way. – Honor your important relationships in some way every chance you get. Every day you have the opportunity to make your relationship sweeter and deeper by making small gestures to show your appreciation and affection. Remember, making one person smile can change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. Your kindness and gratitude matters.
  12. Even the best relationships don’t last forever. – People don’t live forever. Appreciate what you have, who loves you and who cares for you. You’ll never know how much they mean to you until the day they are no longer beside you. And remember, just because something doesn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Saturday, January 28, 2012

La Dolce Vita Retreat in Italy: Radiance Through Yoga, Meditation and Food

My dear friend, Jennifer Iserloh, a.k.a. www.skinnychef.com, and I are partnering again and hosting a retreat to Italy from May 26th-June 2nd, 2012 at the Villa Poggio right by Florence. If you're interested, please email me at anna.fidz@gmail.com

Thursday, January 5, 2012